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Staying Sober Amidst Controversy

Staying Sober Amidst Controversy

Keeping your sobriety is extremely important. However, a controversy can sneak up on you, or it may blast out from a situation that you were not expecting. Controversy can impact your mental and emotional state, which, in turn, can put your sobriety at risk. To understand more about why it is important to understand the impact controversy can have on your sobriety, you may want to get a reminder of the importance of managing controversy in sobriety, get insights about how to handle workplace conflict and learn ways to effectively manage controversy to maintain your recovery.

Being Sober

Professionals in addiction treatment as well as many recovering addicts provide guidance on how to stay sober after treatment. The post, “Strategies to stay sober during the first 90 days after rehab,” provides some key reminders including the following:

  • Structure your daily schedule – The structure that you lived by in your treatment program is intended to give you consistency and a sense of calm because you know what the parameters are in which you can learn and live a sober life.
  • Attend meetings and build a support network – A supportive and positive recovery community is critical to maintaining sobriety in addiction recovery. Not only will you be getting the support that you need from people who understand what you have gone through, you also are engaging with people who are working hard to maintain their sobriety as well.
  • Take care of yourself – Besides the obvious getting plenty of sleep, exercise, engaging in personal hygiene and eating healthy foods, you also want to restore your spiritual self, rebuild your confidence, increase your self-awareness and boost your positivity.
  • Set goals – Goals are intended to create hope and a direction. In recovery, it is important to live one day at a time, so goals are not intended to be a burden or cause you angst. However, breaking down a goal into manageable steps and succeeding at each step does build self-esteem and confidence.

These strategies can help you maintain your sobriety. However, these strategies can be moved to the back of your mind when a controversy arises. Therefore, it is important to learn how to deal with conflict at work as well as resolve controversy in other aspects of your life.

Handling Workplace Conflict

In the post, “5 Keys of Dealing with Workplace Conflict,” the author acknowledges that conflict at work can arise from opposing positions, competitive tensions, power struggles, ego, pride, jealousy, performance discrepancies and compensation issues. However, the author believes that these contributors to controversy stem from the two major causes of workplace conflict, which are communications and emotions.

Lack of information, poor information, no information or misinformation can all contribute to misunderstanding which in turn can lead to controversy. Therefore, whether it is at work or in your personal life, having clear, concise, accurate and timely communication of information will help to ease both the number and severity of conflicts.

Emotions do not contribute to making a sound business decision. In fact, emotions can deflect a person from looking at options clearly, and they can also cause some decisions to be made quickly and without thought to the ramifications of those decisions.

The author suggests strategies to manage conflict. While these suggestions are focused on work, they can apply to your person life as well and include the following:

  • Define acceptable behavior – Be clear of what is acceptable and what is not. You also want to be clear on what will be tolerated and what will not. Having a framework around acceptable behavior makes it clear to everyone involved how best to engage in conversations and decisions.
  • Hit conflict head-on – Look at situations and interactions to see if you think there is a potential for conflict, and then be proactive and intervene before the situation gets out of control thus avoiding the conflict.
  • Understanding the WIIFM (What’s In It For Me) factor – Put yourself in a position to be receptive to hearing what the other person’s needs and motivations are. Once you know this, you can help achieve their objectives in concert with your objectives.
  • Pick your battles – If the issue is not important enough to work hard at opening lines of communication, understanding others’ needs and motivations and brainstorming several solutions, then it is not important enough to have a conflict over.

When you bring compromise, forgiveness, compassion, empathy and the desire to find common ground into a discussion, you are already started on the path to avoid conflict.

Managing Controversy

Some additional suggestions for managing conflict are presented in the post, “Seven Guidelines For Handling Conflicts Constructively.”[3] These suggestions can increase your interpersonal skills as well as help resolve controversy and include the following:

  • Ask open-ended questions, questions that help you to understand the background of the conflict.
  • Make a distinction between the problem and the person.
  • Work to improve your relationship even if there are conflict issues that seem impossible to resolve.
  • Avoid triggering defensiveness by blaming, accusing or criticizing.
  • Extend appreciation and respect when you can do so sincerely.
  • Show that you care about the issues and needs that are important to the other person.
  • Take responsibility for your contributions to the conflict events.

By implementing some of these recommendations you can not only resolve the conflict, but you can also strengthen the relationship.

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[1] https://www.facebook.com/notes/hope-trust/strategies-to-stay-sober-during-the-first-90-days-after-rehab/10153695434023082/

[2] http://www.forbes.com/forbes/welcome/#61151acc15a0

[3] http://www.mediate.com/articles/jordan2.cfm